Recently, I told a colleague that I was going to have dinner alone. She looked at me like I told her I was going to go indulge in a sacrifice to Satan. She then proceeded to tell me that she is there if I need company. But I didn’t need company to begin with.
Another time, I was telling my friends about how I want to travel alone over the weekend. Once again, there was judgement but more than that there was pity. “Don’t travel alone. No one should have to do it. That is just sad,” is what a friend said.
These instances forced me to ponder over questions that I have been troubled by for quite some time:
Why is spending time alone still a stigma? Why are people who like doing things alone considered lonely?
The problem here is that spending time all by yourself is considered to be socially unacceptable. It is understandable, really. Over the centuries, we’ve accepted that man is a social animal. We need people around us for love and support. It is only after interacting and conversing with our fellow homo sapiens that we build friendships that last a lifetime and meet people who help us grow into the best version of ourselves.
But we often underestimate how much we can do for ourselves.
Spending time alone will give you the opportunity to gather your thoughts, analyse your own life and change things that need to be changed. All of which will only take us closer to being self-sufficient people.